What to do when some believer makes you their “project”? This Reddit thread has an interesting discussion of how to handle it when someone makes a concerted, ongoing effort to convert you.
I have to say, I think it would be really cool if some believer wanted to make me their “project,” because I’d feel like I had permission to really defend my worldview and even criticize theirs (of course, it would be different if the believer in question was my boss or someone I absolutely had to remain on good terms with).
Even if they turned out (like many people) to be considerably less happy on the receiving end of the treatment they’re happy to dish out, I’d feel like I had the moral high ground (or at least moral equivalency). And if they ever objected to my treatment of them, I’d have a jumping-off point for discussing whether their (equivalent) treatment of me was appropriate.
The problem is, what if it’s not an out-in-the-open “project” per se, but more of a pattern of dropping hints, leaving Bibles on your desk, or that sort of thing? Can you handle it the same way? Should you? If you make a point of doing a “tit for tat” then it may be your actions, rather than the other person’s, that bring the conflict out in the open.
And, of course, the whole moral “high ground” or “equivalency” thing may not be perceived by others the same way it’s perceived by you. In this society, people who are pushy about their religion are classified as “religious,” while people who are pushy about their atheism are branded as “militant.”
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